Army of Mom

So this is how liberty dies ... with thunderous applause.


I hate being left out

I have bitten my tongue about this. I don't like sour grapes and I have it when people can't let things go. But, that is so me.

There is this lovely website of conservative (mostly Southern) women bloggers who are part of The Cotillion which features the description "Hub site to The Cotillion, a group of some of the best and brightest bloggers around!"

I have emailed these webmistresses at least two or three times each to ask for consideration to be a part of the group. Nothing but crickets chirping. They can't even email me back to say 'you suck AoM.' I just want an answer that tells me why I can't be part of their clique. Update: ppphtphtphpttt!

Now, I'm pretty much at the point that I don't want to be a part of it anymore. But, it sort of sucks to feel like this. I don't know why I care, but I guess I do look to my blog as some sort of validation that I'm a decent writer, a person with a remotely interesting life and someone with something to say every now and then.

I think some of this is coming about because I've been overwhelmed with all of my responsibilities and not any "alone" time with Army of Dad. Soon, I just keep telling myself. Soon.

Taking Stinkerbelle to the doctor in the morning. She is having some weirdass reaction on the inside of her elbows. It is like elephant skin now. I hope it is something simply fixed. Bless her heart. Doesn't seem to bother her, but bugs the hell out of me. Update: Doc said she has eczema.


  • At 9:45 PM, September 18, 2005, Blogger North Dallas Thirty said…

    Well, I happen to think you're smart, pretty, and fun. And you KNOW I'm not just saying that to try to get into your pants. :)

  • At 1:13 AM, September 19, 2005, Blogger Donna B. said…

    You wanna be a deb? c'mon now, you and I both have more sense than that. I never even bothered to ask to be a part of that group, because the whole "cotillion" theme is repulsive to me.

    Maybe that's because I've actually witnessed some of the foolishness with the real debutante cotillion mess.

    "High Society" can take a flying leap in real life and in the blogosphere.

    Is that sour grapes? Maybe, but I'll be damned if I care.

  • At 9:51 AM, September 19, 2005, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Oh, please. Like you need a bunch of cliquish women to confirm how wonderful you are.... they are the losers here and you know it.

    I mean, debutantes? Jeeeesus.... don't make me come over there and slap you.

  • At 9:57 AM, September 19, 2005, Blogger Rachelle Jones said…

    I wasn't invited either..always nice to get an invitation.

    So I know what ya mean, you have a decent readership....enjoy it.

  • At 10:53 AM, September 19, 2005, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    I hope you don't take this the wrong way and I hope you understand the anonymity. As an insider, I know that the main reason your request is being ignored is that you don't fit the mold. The cotillion bloggers touch on interesting life issues, link to good writing and are generally smart and entertaining - less focused on the mundane issues of personal lives and less focused on ogling the opposite sex or being what many would consider to be disrespectful to your husband or wife by posting beefcake and talking - jokingly I'm sure - about wanting to get with said beefcake. A cotillion blogger doesn't necessarily discuss sitting on the toilet, for example. These things are fine for some blogs - including your blog - because that is your style and you are largely writing for a small audience of friends and others who have found your blog(judging by your comments). But it just doesn't fit the sophisticated style. That said, your blog is certainly interesting just less wordly and comprehensive than the cotillion group. Perhaps you could consider starting your own group for women who blog about their thoughts from the toilet or women who lust for unattainable men. I hope that doesn't come across as rude it's just more the style of your blog. Good luck.

  • At 11:10 AM, September 19, 2005, Blogger Army of Mom said…

    NDT - thanks hon.

    Donna - I knew I liked you for a reason.

    LabKat and ArmyWife - yes, you're both right.

    Anon - thanks for the explanation. Yes, it is rude, though, just as it is rude for these women to not even bother writing back. A simple email that reads "thanks for your interest, however, our blog tends to focus more on world events" or whatever BS they want to say. THAT, I was taught, are good manners. A simple, no thanks is much more polite than simply ignoring someone. And, yes, I do blog about the daily mundane things. That is my life. Daily mundane things. Yes, I use the toilet. Sorry I'm not so sophisticated as to say that. And, yes, my husband is secure enough in our relationship that I may ogle hot unattainable men and he still comes home to me, loves me and gives me his paycheck so I can run our household. So sorry I don't fit in with your "mold." Now, if you can give them a Psst and tell them that good manners dictates a simple response to an email and then we'll all be even. Oh, never mind. Donna is right.

  • At 11:13 AM, September 19, 2005, Blogger Army of Mom said…

    Anon- sorry if I sounded rude in my response. I do blog about things other than reading on the toilet and hot guys. But, on any given day, coming to my blog you may see something insightful on Hurricane Katrina or you may read about my daughter's excema.

    So, you're right, I'm not in that realm. And, I think I'm ok with that. Thanks for taking a few moments to tell me what those blog snobs wouldn't.

  • At 11:41 AM, September 19, 2005, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    You weren't rude. Reading back, my comments might have seemed rude. Frankly, I do agree that a note explaining this could have been sent, but I guess they figured they didn't want to hurt feelings by explaining they're not seeking the type of blog that your blog is...Your blog has its place; the cotillion blogs have a different place. You should not take anything personally. It's good you have a husband who isn't offended by some of the comments you make and feelings you have about other men. I guess that's either very secure, indeed, or clueless or indicates a lack of caring.

    Everyone has their own feelings on how to respect a spouse.

  • At 12:04 PM, September 19, 2005, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Secure is the better description. I am not clueless, even if I were then she wouldn't post those thoughts here as I certainly know about her blog.

    I find it amusing that "they" would be so quick to judge about a blog's content and how that is likely beneath them and yet these "ladies" don't have the courtesy to reply. Some cotillion.

  • At 1:40 PM, September 19, 2005, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    "as in insider" nice touch anon.

    A true lady would have sent a quiet e-mail, and would have never sent a note in the comments section for all to read.

    humiliation huh? The ladies of the cotillion have posted beefcake photos too, of women mind you, and so does Blonde Sagacity....

    don't act like it is about the photos.....

  • At 2:09 PM, September 19, 2005, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    My... how condescending... how lofty.... how holier-than-thou.... and, how utterly full of horseshit.

    Next time, perhaps the "ladies" will have the balls to put their names up when they insult someone.

  • At 3:29 PM, September 19, 2005, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Lab Kat: The cotillion ladies are a classy act and perhaps it's an oversight that one of the hosts did not e-mail Army of Mom. Or, perhaps they did not want to hurt her feelings. Perhaps I am more blunt and honest than them. For that, apparently I deserve your tirade???

    Look, my point here was to help explain to AoM something she wondered about in her blog.
    I don't necessarily agree with the reasons or the inability of anyone to give her the courtesy of a reply, I just thought I'd help out. Her blog does not fit with the way of the cotillion - as it's very much full of things nobody cares about other than those close to her, rather than touching on the greater good and larger issues. Many find the lascivious comments about men - coming from a married woman - to be offensive. Many don't like the mental pictures that are often drawn in relation to her bodily activities such as taking, how shall I put this delicately - well, taking a dump. That's one of many examples.

    AoM: Clearly you're a fine mother, with a good husband; a good writer with some cogent posts at times and interesting things to say - so be happy with that. Because you're not what the cotillion is about doesn't mean anything other than your blog serves a different purpose. It's tailored more to frustrated women than the sophisticated woman. Be proud of that.

  • At 3:59 PM, September 19, 2005, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Oh look another backhanded compliment.

    Funny, I was talking about the pettiness and cliquishness of the female side of our species this weekend in the context of coaching a team of girls. Stikerbelle not being old enough to play sports yet I was surprised by the amount of those attitudes reported by the others in the conversation. I guess I shouldn't have been so naive.

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  • At 11:03 PM, September 19, 2005, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Might I just say to the cotillion, KISS THE FATTEST PART OF MY ASS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Class goes far beyond words. Actions are tied to one's classiness or in the "cotillion's" case lack there of. A simple thank you for your interest but we don't think your style would blend well with ours is all it takes.

    Just in case I didn't clear it up to begin with...Fattest part of my cotillion chicks...kiss it....

    OH, btw...AOM, I've got eczema, have had my whole life. I have pointers and ideas if you wish....

  • At 5:18 AM, September 20, 2005, Blogger Army of Mom said…

    Kathy - I may be seeking out advice on the eczema.

  • At 8:53 AM, September 20, 2005, Blogger Beth said…

    You'll be getting your response, which I certainly don't "owe you," as publicly as your little whine.

    And Donna B., how can "the whole 'cotillion' theme" be repulsive to you when you CLEARLY haven't read a damn thing you're bitching about (re: the blogs)? How typical of whiners.

  • At 9:51 AM, September 20, 2005, Blogger Donna B. said…


    I'm not whining. Did I ever ask to be a part of the cotillion?

    I've read about half the blogs who are members. Some I read quite often, including yours. A few I read daily.

    Just like in real life, the cotillion/debutante scene is one of icky classism.

    The only thing the blogosphere version has going for it is that nobody has to buy $10,000 wedding dresses in 3 different colors and $500 kidskin gloves to take part.

    Unfortunately, it keeps the demeaning aspects, like females need to be dressed up and presented to be considered worthy and acceptable to "society".


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