Army of Mom

So this is how liberty dies ... with thunderous applause.

1.02.2007

Where do you fit in these figures?

You know, this sort of broke my heart when my friend, Kelvinator, sent this to me. I guess I'm not surprised, but it is sad.

Headline on this story reads:
Woman's Day/AOL Poll Reveals Majority of Married Women Would Reconsider Their Spouses: 36% Would Not Marry Their Husbands If They Could Re-Do Their 'I Do' & Another 20% Not Sure

Huh? Not sure? What the hell, people?

Here's the story:
A new poll from Woman's Day magazine (womansday.com) and AOL.com finds 36 percent of married women would not marry their husbands if they had to do it all over again, with another 20 percent saying they weren't sure if they would or not. The complete poll findings are highlighted in the February issue of Woman's Day magazine.

The poll, which surveyed more than 3,000 American married women, provides insight into a variety of issues, including flirting, infidelity, soulmates, bedtime habits, honesty, jealousy and pop culture. In regard to marriage, the poll finds 76 percent of married women keep secrets from their husbands; 84 percent of all American wives say they would want to betold if their husbands were cheating, with 49 percent of them stating they have suspected or even caught their husband having an affair. On the flipside,76 percent admit to fantasizing about a man other than their husband, with 39 percent stating they flirt with other men constantly. A look inside the bedroom of married couples reveals that 33 percent of all wives sleep in the nude, while 32 percent stated they sleep on the opposite end of the bed from their husband.

Ok, my two cents: not all of these things are bad. Who tells their spouse everything? That wouldn't be healthy. What about questions like 'does my ass look fat?' If he's smart, he'll say no. When your husband shoots some critter, fries it up and then asks you if it's tasty, you say 'yes' unequivocally because he worked hard to get the critter and even harder to cook it up for you. Another one that I don't see as a problem is the fantasizing. Seriously. Haven't you ever ate a hamburger and dreamed about eating steak? There is nothing wrong with that as long as you're not pouring your A-1 on a steak when you have a perfectly good hamburger at home. Now the flirting with men "constantly" is a bit disturbing. An occasional good-natured flirt is healthy. It is the constant part of that one that bothers me. And, if you're sleeping in the nude, you should have a great marriage because that makes men pretty happy.

All I have to say about this study is that I bet there are an awful lot of women watching the Dr. Phil show or eating lots of bon-bons to drown their sorrows. My advice: work on making things better instead of bitching. Once you've made the efforts, work with your partner to continue making things better. If it is that bad and no one is happy, then maybe it is time to move on because I'm of the firm belief that a miserable marriage makes for miserable people who can't possibly be raising emotionally healthy children. Kids pick up on the tension and hostility.

*putting soapbox away and going to sleep naked with the husband that I love and would marry a million times again*

5 Comments:

  • At 2:26 AM, January 03, 2007, Blogger cashin said…

    My advice: work on making things better instead of bitching.

    *high 5's AoM*

     
  • At 7:07 AM, January 03, 2007, Anonymous Momilies said…

    I am not sure that those poll results are that far outta line, honestly.

    Depending on what day you ask me, I might be able to say I wish I'd not married my second husband. And other days, I might just say I'm not sure. It's not that I don't love him, obviously I do. It's that there are always problems and issues in any marriage, and marriage is hard work, and sometimes you're just tired and frustrated and not sure all the work is worth it.

    But of course all the work IS worth it, which is why I stay married and still love him even when he pisses me off. But in a poll...I'm sure I would have been one of the "not sure" people.

    I do have your same philosophy of make it work or call it quits, but don't sit there and complain about it, because that solves nothing.

     
  • At 7:50 AM, January 03, 2007, Anonymous Army of Dad said…

    Well it is common knowledge that women change their minds faster than the speed of light...

     
  • At 8:10 PM, January 03, 2007, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    I think what the poll really uncovered... is why Oprah is more powerful than 75% of world leaders...

    BT

     
  • At 9:18 PM, January 05, 2007, Blogger Mo K said…

    Woohoo, girl!

    Isn't it wonderful to know you've married your best friend?

    If I had to remarry Mr. Mo every day until God called me home, I would do it.

    Hmm. Can you imagine that?
    A ceremony.
    Each and every day.
    It could be a little one.

    Hmm.

     

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