Confronted with mortality
Funny what we don't know about people. While at the Mommy and Me swim lessons last night with Stinkerbelle (I put cotton in her ears and kept her head out of the water - I know, I know, but I hated for her to have to sit and watch her big brother swim while she couldn't) I was visiting with another mom (KL) there. We were talking and she mentioned that she is having to go to a funeral today and has to take her almost 1-year-old son with her because she has nowhere to leave him.
You see, she really has no family here. Her in-laws live in a little town about an hour away (maybe less, I'm not sure where the small town in in relation to ours). She has a brother in Plano. Her parents and sister live in West Texas.
The funeral is for a friend whose 42-year-old husband dropped dead Monday of a heart attack. No health problems that they knew of. He had gone to work, ate dinner and was taking a walk after dinner when he died. He left behind his wife, an 18-year-old child and a 12-year-old child. KL was fighting back tears as she told me. She needed to be there for her friend and support her. You see, she has been through it. She's only 39, but she is already a widow. Her husband was killed by a drunken driver when she was 5-months-pregnant. So, her baby has never seen his dad.
The tales of these two families hit me like a ton of bricks and made me feel like even more of an ass after I sent the nasty email to Army of Dad. Here I am being bratty and these women would probably give everything they own to have their husbands back in their lives. I felt so petty. It made me think about what I would do without AoD in my own life and it made me very, very sad.
AoD and I talked about it last night and it turned into a very practical conversation. We started talking about life insurance. I have a good amount on him, but we don't have near as much on me. So, we talked about increasing that.
KL told me that she tells her son every day how God needed his daddy more in heaven than here on earth. I think we all have to find our comfort where we can, but I hope this doesn't make the boy angry at God as he grows up and misses his dad. KL said she invested the life insurance, so she can stay home with the baby. I think that is great. Just made me feel so badly for them. And, made me grateful for the blessings I have.
You see, she really has no family here. Her in-laws live in a little town about an hour away (maybe less, I'm not sure where the small town in in relation to ours). She has a brother in Plano. Her parents and sister live in West Texas.
The funeral is for a friend whose 42-year-old husband dropped dead Monday of a heart attack. No health problems that they knew of. He had gone to work, ate dinner and was taking a walk after dinner when he died. He left behind his wife, an 18-year-old child and a 12-year-old child. KL was fighting back tears as she told me. She needed to be there for her friend and support her. You see, she has been through it. She's only 39, but she is already a widow. Her husband was killed by a drunken driver when she was 5-months-pregnant. So, her baby has never seen his dad.
The tales of these two families hit me like a ton of bricks and made me feel like even more of an ass after I sent the nasty email to Army of Dad. Here I am being bratty and these women would probably give everything they own to have their husbands back in their lives. I felt so petty. It made me think about what I would do without AoD in my own life and it made me very, very sad.
AoD and I talked about it last night and it turned into a very practical conversation. We started talking about life insurance. I have a good amount on him, but we don't have near as much on me. So, we talked about increasing that.
KL told me that she tells her son every day how God needed his daddy more in heaven than here on earth. I think we all have to find our comfort where we can, but I hope this doesn't make the boy angry at God as he grows up and misses his dad. KL said she invested the life insurance, so she can stay home with the baby. I think that is great. Just made me feel so badly for them. And, made me grateful for the blessings I have.
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